You're an adult now. And adults have to take responsibility for themselves. Which means, if you're clothes are dirty, you need to wash them. If you're hungry, you need to go and get yourself some food. While you're young (and I hope you are still young when you try to learn all of this), take the time to learn these five skills so you aren't wasting your time learning them later.
1. How to Cook
I flipping hate cooking. There is no one who hates cooking in this world more than me. But eventually, you're going to need to cook...something. That is, one of these days, your meals will need to come not out of the microwave, but perhaps, the oven. (I know, shocking, right?)
I'm not a cooking expert, but there are a few essentials that I know you should probably learn:
-How to read directions (actually, if you're used to microwave meals, you've probably mastered this).
-How to scramble eggs.
-How to cook pasta.
-How to use knives.
-How to cook rice (even if you're using a rice cooker).
You can look most of these up on your own so I'm not giving you links for these lol!
2. How to Control Your Finances
Eric and I grew up very lucky in that our parents taught us how to manage our money and God has really blessed us. However, we're still imperfect human beings who have had to learn quite a bit (and are still learning) about money as we've grown into adulthood. For tips on finances, especially as it relates to credit cards and handling your money God's way, I suggest SeedTime. Bob Lotich and his wife are amazing. We just purchased their course on how to handle your finances. (We haven't finished it yet or I would probably give it a rave review right here and now ;)
3. How to Do Laundry
If you've never learned how to do laundry, I'm surprised you're breathing and able to read. Don't worry, it's not your fault; it's your mother's (or possibly her mother's for never teaching her?) Whatever. The point is: YOU NEED TO KNOW HOW TO DO LAUNDRY. And since I don't feel like writing an entire article on how to do your laundry, here's a video that will teach you how:
4. How to Schedule Your Life
You need to have a plan. There are 168 hours in a week, and according to most experts, we waste a good majority of that time watching TV, checking our phones, and "working" (which is to say, telling ourselves we're working when we're actually just wasting time). I highly recommend reading the book "168 Hours" by Laura Vanderkam. In the book she explains how we're spending our time and how we should be spending it to get the most out of life.
Which brings me to my next point: get a freaking planner. I know what you're thinking: "planners don't work for me". No, the problem is, you won't work with your planner. You leave it behind, refuse to consult it, and prefer to live life spontaneously.
You don't have to use a traditional planner, and I truly do believe that some people don't need them at all (I am not one of those people). But you do need SOMETHING to write notes in when those random things come into play. They can be sticky notes if that works for you. For goodness sakes, it can be the notes app on your phone; I'm sure your never without your phone! The bottom line is: write things down. There shouldn't be any surprises. There shouldn't be any "oh, yeah, that's right!" moments. Anytime you have that thought, stop and consider whether you wrote it down, or you lied to yourself and told yourself you would remember.
Don't lie to yourself.
Write it down.
5. How to Say No
It's no wonder we don't know how to say no. We grew up with parents and authority figures telling us we weren't allowed to say no to them. As children, we felt like we didn't have choices.
And then we became adults. Now your boss wants to add another project to your overstuffed in-tray. Your friend wants you to host a baby shower for her. Your extended family member wants money to go back to school...again. And you have no idea how to say no.
Let's think about these examples practically. You can say to your boss, "I got your email asking me to start the 'BLAH BLAH BLAH' project as soon as possible I already have the 'blah blah blah' project and the 'Blah Blah Blah' project in the works. I can prioritize two of these projects at once, but I won't be able to complete all three of them on time. Which projects would you like me to prioritize?" Or, think outside the box. Are there portions of these projects you've insisted on doing yourself that you really should delegate? Or, could a team of people you work with be built to work on a project together?
Your friend will survive if someone else has to host her baby shower. Sure, she'll be disappointed. But if she's a good friend, she'll understand. Tell her what you can do (are willing to do) and firmly tell her what you can't do.
Just tell your family member no. If they've proven they can't finish school then don't fund their inability to follow through. If it's a loan and they've had a habit of not paying back their loans, don't give them money. You're just helping them avoid adulting, which makes you a perpetrator. Don't put yourself in that role. Plus, once you say no once they typically stop asking.
This is something you'll need to practice. Start with the little things. Write down three things this week you can say no to; they can be anything. You can so no to being the designated driver, eating that piece of cake after 9pm, or skipping your workout and sleeping in.
What other skills do you think people need to know in order to adult correctly? Tell me in the comments so I can work on those skills!